Temper: make your brain explode (but not really)

One of the particular challenges that real men manage to overcome is the challenge of keeping his temper in check.  Whether arguing with a spouse, a mate, or a child, even when dealing with a naughty pet, it is never a sign of anything good when a man loses control of his temper.

Meekness is the characteristic of "restrained/reserved strength".  Just because you have the physical ability to dominate, doesn't mean that you should.  A reign of terror, in which you keep everyone in check by fear of what you will do or say to them, is not cool.  It's good for those whom you lead to realise that you have that power though - it leads to greater respect when you keep your cool and ask for obedience (rather than demand).

Restraining your anger is not the same thing as not letting people know that you are angry either.  They will likely see it in your face anyway, but it is better if others trust you to keep control and seek justice through fair and careful means (rather than through a general explosion which has collateral damage).  It may mean that your brain feels like it will explode, especially if you are clearly in the right, but let the pressure out with a deep breath and act wisely.  Your head will remain intact!

Part of a real man's burden is to suffer wrong at times too.  More on that another time.

Challenges and Testing Yourself

Real men are never satisfied with themselves, yet at the same time they are confident because they know their own abilities and their reactions to certain experiences.

This lack of satisfaction with self leads to a desire to challenge oneself and to grow through the challenge.  That's where the joy comes from when testing yourself against a strong opponent or in difficult circumstances.  There is always joy in knowing that you are a better man.

On the other hand, if you never seek out challenges you will never develop the confidence of self-awareness.  Can I suggest a place to start challenging yourself?  Diet and exercise.  Correct diet gives you the energy to exercise and exercise develops your physical and mental capabilities.  This is the foundation for further success in challenges which leads to much rejoicing in your manliness!